Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Who’s Having Good Sex?

Everywhere I turn there is a conversation about sex – Who’s having it? Who isn’t? Is it good? Is it wack? The desire for more sex: in both quantity, and more importantly quality, seems to be lying under the surface everywhere I turn. Seriously! There is not one conversation that I have had with a single girl friend recently that did not make a turn to our need for consistent good sex. There seem to be so many single women with unfulfilled needs. Old man winter finally showed up and there is no penis meat in our beds to keep us warm. I mean really: Where in the hell is the BEEF? Lol
It seems both men and women are affected by this shortage of quality relations. This past weekend, in two separate conversations with friends/associates, I was blown away by their admissions of having lackluster sex lives. 
The first of these conversations lent itself to an acquaintance suggesting that he doesn’t get head from his fiancée on a consistent basis, and that when it does occur, it is lackluster.  I was thinking to myself, “Wow, a woman can get a ring without giving great head?...” I was truly in a baffled state. It was like he told me he saw pigs fly. It just didn’t make sense to me.
In the other conversation, a friend admitted that her ex-boo thang, proclaimed that his favorite sexual position was missionary.  HOW BORING! The whole table let out a simultaneous deep sigh that was drenched in condolences. Now we see why he is an ex, right?! Lol!
Is anyone having good sex? Can you have mind-blowing sex and a good relationship with the same person? Or does one have to choose good sex with someone temporary over an amazingly healthy relationship? Why can’t both be achieved with the same person?
Or is the real question: Is lackluster/boring sex better than no sex at all? I am not quite sure that is a question I am ready to tackle.


  1. A -- I am with you! Where is the good sex? Where are the men? Where are the men who want relationships?

  2. LMAO! Well yes it is possible to have bomb ass sex and an awesome relationship ;) ... you know my current situation *wink wink*
    Plus I feel like everytime we got physical it got better ... we been going ham ever since!!!


  3. I never have a problem with good sex but where are the men who want relationships! I mean I need to get there 1st before I can tell if the sex in a relationship is going to be any good!

  4. I think we've all had less than stellar sex at one point or another. That said, it is absolutely possible to have both a healthy relationship and great sex. You just have to determine what is most important to you and prioritize accordingly. Like Charlotte on Sex and the City: Trey was the handsome doctor with family money but he couldn't get it up; then she met Harry--who was not so easy on the eyes, but a lawyer, good to her and they had chemistry too. (I recognize that these are fictional characters, but you get my point. LOL)

  5. I have had some of the most mind blowing sex. I can contribute that to a strong chemistry and an awareness that we both have of each others bodies. I do not want to get too deep, but we know eachothers favorite positions, we moan or scream when it is being done right and if we do not like something, we IMMEDIATELY express that. I am one happy SINGLE woman! OW OW!