Friday, January 7, 2011

The Question I Asked Myself

On Christmas morning, I woke up to text and tweets that my little sister who is four, yes four, years younger than me just said yes to her boyfriend's proposal. There it was -- my little sister was getting married. Immediately I was happy and estactic for her!!! I mean what girl doesn't want to get married? All girls want to get married, right?! Right?!

With the recent engagement of my sister and a friend from high school, it has left me examining what I really want. Like, do I really want this because I genuinely want this? Or do I want it because everyone else around me does and they are constantly and consistently working on obtaining it? I am at the age, where all of my friends are slowly preparing themselves to make this transition. I still don't have an answer to this. However, I have made the determination that marriage is like college -- it isn't for everyone. I am okay with me not being obsessed with finding it, but at the same time I am not going to close myself off to the possibility of marriage either.

But I am glad I had the conversation with myself...



  1. Girl, that's where I am in life. I don't want to get married just to get married -- i want to marry the right person. I hope your sis really knows this guy and what she's getting into cuz it's not all peaches and cream. I wish her the best of luck.

    I dont want to be alone but i don't feel like i need a husband and kids to be fulfilled. We're still young...

  2. @ Miss Ushie -- I totally agree!!!! Like do I need to be married and have kids?! Maybe it comes with time...I don't know...or maybe when that right guy appears...idk